A journey back in time

A few weeks ago, I had the honor of attending my 50th high school class reunion. Yes, 50th! It was an amazing weekend in Ventura, reconnecting with old friends—some of whom I hadn’t seen in 30 or even 50 years. So cool. So fun.

The long drive to and from California left me reflecting on the warp speed of my teenage years. 
Some memories were really good, while others, not so much.

I reminisced about wonderful moments as a teenager in SoCal, like getting out of the house just in time to see the sunrise at the beach with Him.

And I also reflected on the dual existence of being a "popular" girl who got attention for being cute while wrestling with major insecurities and feelings of inadequacy about my body. The high school teacher who seduced me. The terrifying fights between my parents. The unintentionally hurtful comment my then-boyfriend made about my body during an intimate encounter that hit me in a vulnerable place, and stuck with me for years.

Have things like this happened in your life, too?

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Trauma is widespread. It’s in you, in your history. I wish it weren’t true, but it is.

I see it in my responses—the way I hold back. I recognize it when I’m tearful and when my feelings are the last thing I can access.

I have trauma creds.

Of course, my trauma isn’t as traumatic as yours, or his, or hers.

My trauma is my own. And yours is yours. Our job is to not let it define us. To keep the past from ruining the now. From destroying us.

Over the years, I’ve done my healing work. The memories aren’t in my body anymore the way they were when I was younger. But this recent trip down memory lane reminded me of how even the smallest things can feel traumatic depending on where you are in your life at the time. Know what I mean?

Not only have I done my own healing work, but I’m honored to do the work I love—teaching you how to release trauma and other bodily held shame, how to open up to what you desire in your sensual and intimate life, and how to talk about what you want with a lover.

One of the modalities I’m offering to help release trauma is 5-PATH hypnosis, conducted either in-person or virtually. It’s pretty amazing stuff. Book a free consultation call, and we can discuss whether hypnosis may be a good fit for you.

Together, we’re learning to let go of the toxic shame that comes from our traumatic experiences.

Progress. That’s the work. And the reward.


Big Hugs,

Jane


PS: On another note, I’ve been reading Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections - by Emily Nagoski. I'm really enjoying it and getting lots from it about her way of thinking about/referencing pleasure. I’m sure we’ll discuss more on this impactful book later, but I thought I’d share in real time…

Are you reading anything you’d recommend to others? Sharing is caring.