Thinking About Opening Up?

Ever wondered if opening your marriage might be the right path for you and your partner? It’s a question that comes up more often than you might think, and when it does, it deserves an open-hearted look.

So, let’s get into it. If you’re considering ethical non-monogamy (ENM), whether that means polyamory, swinging, or something else, there’s one guiding principle that’ll keep you grounded: communicate, communicate, communicate. ENM can bring incredible new dimensions to a relationship, but even when you’re both all in, you’re likely to feel nervous system responses like excitement, curiosity, and maybe even fear or jealousy.

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It’s no surprise—most of us live in a monogamy-focused culture, which may not totally “get” the growth and connection possible with ENM. And yet, let’s be honest—monogamy has its own bumps and hurdles. So, if you’re on the brink of exploring a more open relationship (or have done it,) here are some key questions you’ll want to consider:

1. What boundaries feel right around texting and staying in touch with others?
   
   
   
2. Which aspects of intimacy are for each other, and which can you share outside?
   
   
   
3. How will you approach things like STD testing or the potential for pregnancy?
   
   
   
4. And maybe most importantly—how will you handle all those emotions, the time it takes, and the life you already share?

ENM isn’t for everyone, and that’s completely okay. But if it’s calling to you, start by keeping the lines of communication open, honest, and free of judgment. It can be a fun and sexy topic to talk about in your relationship!

Are you ready to dive into a conversation about ethical non-monogamy? I’d love to hear your thoughts and help you navigate this choice. Feel free to schedule a free consultation with me here.

Here’s to keeping things honest and open!

Xoxo,
Jane


PS. If this topic resonates in some way, check out a throwback blog about it: The Rocket Fuel Dream.

PSS. You don’t have to be considering opening your relationship to talk to me. I help people let go of sexual shame, learn to communicate about intimacy without embarrassment, and to identify and resolve barriers to intimacy with ease.