the quickie |
do you miss it?
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The passion, love, intimacy, and easy affection from back in the day when you and your partner spent more time thinking about how to get alone together than you ever thought about dinner? Do you love your partner deeply, but when you try to talk about your desires in the bedroom, your partner goes silent on you for days? Are you tired of being blamed for everything about your sex life even though you know that it could be a whole lot better if your partner actually "got it"? Have you been working with a couples’ counselor, but the sessions always seem to focus on something that’s not really important, like the pets or the in-laws, not the things you’re really interested in - like passion, connection, affection? 
If you’re worried that bringing up the sex thing when everything else is going okay, I get it. Nobody wants to ruin a perfectly nice Saturday morning by saying the wrong thing.
It’s okay to make mistakes when you bring it up. You’re not alone in that. In fact, it’s pretty common. We’ve been raised in a society that discourages us from talking about “private” things, and we think that if we bring it up, it’ll make our partner feel even more uncomfortable - or even angry. You can feel comfortable in your own skin sexually. You can have an intimate relationship that feels amazing - no matter what.
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Why would you seek out a sexologist/sex coach to become more comfortable talking about sex and intimacy?
Because what you’re doing isn’t working.
I bet you search the internet to find books and articles about loving relationships when you feel like you’re totally lost in this thing - you’ve got nobody to talk to, and you need things to change. Now.
Because what you’re doing isn’t working.
I bet you search the internet to find books and articles about loving relationships when you feel like you’re totally lost in this thing - you’ve got nobody to talk to, and you need things to change. Now.
Imagine what it would feel like to wake up on a Saturday morning cozy in your yummy bed, the littles are still asleep, you’re gently stroking and touching, turning toward each other over and over, finding each other in the covers, saying “I love you” as the sun comes up.
Your partner gets up to start the coffee and comes back to bed with two steaming hot mugs. You sit up and feel them tuck the pillow behind your back. You look across the bed, your hair tousled, and laugh as you catch each other's eye.
They smile a secret smile and you both break out laughing, knowing last night was delicious, passionate, and loving. It’s working out the way you’ve always dreamed it would.
You no longer feel uncertain about exploring physical intimacy together.
You’re comfortable and confident sexually, taking steps to expand and explore each other in a beautiful connection.
You’re participating in much needed conversations about your bodies, how everything impacts your sexuality, desire, orgasm and power. You’re talking about sex.
what does the most comfortable, confident, and connected version of yourself look like?
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how would this experience transform your whole life, your relationship with your body, your friendships, the way you show up at work, or even on your yoga mat?
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I created The Quickie because I remember what it feels like to be stuck in the middle of the messiness of life. I had no idea how to handle being the mom of 6 kids, the house filled with legos, dishes still in the sink and wondering how to possibly get a shower, let alone get turned on. lol
Couples’ counseling didn’t work, At least for this. (We tried this, too.)
Talking week after week about problems of daily living with a counselor is NOT the answer to your sexual intimacy concerns.
Pretending that your sex problem is going to go away when you have more time together is NOT the answer. (Covid taught you that.)
The Quickie is for you if you’re ready to finally let go of sexual shame and to get to the bottom of what’s standing in the way of having the sex life of your dreams.
Couples’ counseling didn’t work, At least for this. (We tried this, too.)
Talking week after week about problems of daily living with a counselor is NOT the answer to your sexual intimacy concerns.
Pretending that your sex problem is going to go away when you have more time together is NOT the answer. (Covid taught you that.)
The Quickie is for you if you’re ready to finally let go of sexual shame and to get to the bottom of what’s standing in the way of having the sex life of your dreams.
trying new sexual positions and spicing it up with sexy lingerie can be helpful, but we’ll be talking about the REAL ways your body, home environment, schedule, desire, and orgasmic responses, impact your relationship.
We’ll gently unpack what’s been happening in your life and the unrealistic sexual expectations and fear based conversations that go hand in hand with physical concerns. (PS: Everything we do will be trauma-informed and consent-based.)
You may feel like this work isn’t for you. That you don’t need to deal with sex because when you first met, everything was okay (and you hope it’ll be okay soon again all on its own… once the kids get a little older or things calm down.)
For some that might be true.
But life is short. Your connection with the person that you love is too important to ignore.
It deserves your attention just like every other part.
You might think that…
This will just create conflict with your partner and it’ll never get better (because of ALL the things).
Or maybe you’ve (both?) got past trauma that feels impossible.
You may feel afraid of what you might find out about your partner and yourself. You may realize that you have problems that you didn’t recognize before.
But what if it does work? A satisfying sex life is for everybody. We all deserve to give and receive pleasure.
You may feel like this work isn’t for you. That you don’t need to deal with sex because when you first met, everything was okay (and you hope it’ll be okay soon again all on its own… once the kids get a little older or things calm down.)
For some that might be true.
But life is short. Your connection with the person that you love is too important to ignore.
It deserves your attention just like every other part.
You might think that…
This will just create conflict with your partner and it’ll never get better (because of ALL the things).
Or maybe you’ve (both?) got past trauma that feels impossible.
You may feel afraid of what you might find out about your partner and yourself. You may realize that you have problems that you didn’t recognize before.
But what if it does work? A satisfying sex life is for everybody. We all deserve to give and receive pleasure.
The Quickie is a one-month coaching, education, and sexual exploration program with three phases.
This is for you either as a couple or as an individual if that’s better for you.
You may be in a relationship, but you want to work on this stuff just for yourself (at least to start). You may be in a relationship and you’re both ready to do this powerful work.
I’m flexible. We’ll take it nice and easy. No worries.
You may be in a relationship, but you want to work on this stuff just for yourself (at least to start). You may be in a relationship and you’re both ready to do this powerful work.
I’m flexible. We’ll take it nice and easy. No worries.
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This first phase is focused on understanding your sexual self and de-shaming the way you think about physical and emotional intimacy. We’ll explore your intimate desires & fantasies, personal histories, physical concerns, emotional blocks, relational issues, levels of personal energy. We’ll talk about the challenges you face sexually (physical difficulties, emotions like jealousy, guilt, fear, shame, etc). |
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Explore dynamics including practical things like scheduling, privacy, communication and desire. Explore ways to create attunement in your relationship, to see the places where your relationship is stuck and the questions you should ask yourself and your partner so that you can both keep opening your hearts, bodies, minds and energies. |
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We’ll discuss the specific blocks we’re finding together. This allows for a deepening our understanding of what might be in the way of your connected and confident intimate relationship and what you might do to shift your way of thinking about intimacy. |
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In this final session, we’ll take a look at your individual Pleasure Plan and talk about what you can do to move into the future with confidence. We’ll review the plan and see how it feels. We’ll make modifications as needed.
You may want to take your Pleasure Plan to your couples’ counselor and use it in your sessions there. You may want to discuss it at your next medical appointment. You might want to join another program with me to implement the ideas we’ve come up with - or work on it on your own at home together. |
what you'll get
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what others say
“Jane's open, compassionate style and ability to normalize sexuality with her expertise and coaching helped me immensely. I feel more empowered with my sexuality and my relationship is stronger than ever because of Jane's program. Thank you!" -KP “I just wanted to reach out again and say thank you for your work and your amazing brain. I got more out of our hour-long session than I did in 3 different therapists offices. You're incredible and just felt you needed to hear that again. Hope you're staying safe and no need to respond. The compliment is free, just like your gift was to me two years ago” - AS “You have been a godsend, Jane. The universe put the right person in our path at the right time.” - AP |
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How are you feeling about all this?
Positive? Incredibly uncomfortable? Sure that it’ll never work? Ready to step up and dive into the last frontier of your relationship? Or maybe the last frontier of your own life?
Wonderful! That means you’re feeling the feelings and that also means that something in you is responding!
Let’s do this!
xo
faqs
I’M IN A RELATIONSHIP. CAN MY PARTNER USE THIS TOO?
Absolutely! You’ll both come talk with me - in my office on Bond St in downtown Bend or on Zoom.
The workbooks are downloadable. You can listen to the lessons and guided meditations together or alone. Nice and easy.
The workbooks are downloadable. You can listen to the lessons and guided meditations together or alone. Nice and easy.
WE FIGHT ABOUT SEX A LOT. WILL THIS HELP?
This course is for you if you have a lot of fights about sex. It’s a 1:1 experience with me that’s designed to decrease drama in your intimate life.
I’M SINGLE. CAN I STILL DO THIS?
Yup! This experience is designed to help you get in touch with your own sexuality. You’ll learn so many things about yourself that the next time you’re in a relationship, it will be super easy to talk about what you really want.
WE HAVEN’T HAD SEX FOR 10 YEARS. IS IT TOO LATE FOR US?
It’s definitely not too late! The Quickie will help you learn about what got in the way of connection (way back when) and how to remove barriers now, so that you can start talking (and even touching) again.
IS THERE A GUARANTEE THAT THIS WILL FIX MY SEX LIFE?
I can guarantee that if you do this work, you’ll understand yourself & your feelings about sex so that you can share what you’ve learned about yourself with a future partner & make progress.
HOW MUCH TIME WILL THIS TAKE? WE'RE SO BUSY.
The Quickie is a simple way to make progress on your intimate relationship - just 4 one hour sessions with me in person or on Zoom. You’ll have access to bonus materials to support your learning, but there’s no requirement to do anything but show up for your sessions to get the full benefit of this experience.
DO YOU HAVE A PAYMENT PLAN? WE’RE ON A BUDGET.
Yup. There’s a payment plan available. I want everyone who needs this experience to have it.
DO YOU HAVE SCHOLARSHIPS AVAILABLE?
Yes, we have a few scholarships available. Please email me if you’d like to apply at [email protected].
I ALREADY HAVE AN ACCOUNT ON Thrivecart. DO I USE THE SAME LOGIN AND PASSWORD FOR THIS?
Yes and no, please use the same login and password for any other course you’ve purchased from me, but if your login is with another school you will have a different login.
I'M HAVING TECH ISSUES - WHAT CAN I DO?
Oh no! We're here to help - please reach out to me directly so I can get you sorted.