the quickie |
the quickie |
The passion, love, intimacy, and easy affection from back in the day when you and your partner spent more time thinking about how to get alone together than you ever thought about dinner? Do you love your partner deeply, but when you try to talk about your desires in the bedroom, your partner goes silent on you for days? Are you tired of being blamed for everything about your sex life even though you know that it could be a whole lot better if your partner actually "got it"? Have you been working with a couples’ counselor, but the sessions always seem to focus on something that’s not really important, like the pets or the in-laws, not the things you’re really interested in - like passion, connection, affection? If you’re worried that bringing up the sex thing when everything else is going okay, I get it. Nobody wants to ruin a perfectly nice Saturday morning by saying the wrong thing.
It’s okay to make mistakes when you bring it up. You’re not alone in that. In fact, it’s pretty common. We’ve been raised in a society that discourages us from talking about “private” things, and we think that if we bring it up, it’ll make our partner feel even more uncomfortable - or even angry. You can feel comfortable in your own skin sexually. You can have an intimate relationship that feels amazing - no matter what.
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This first phase is focused on understanding your sexual self and de-shaming the way you think about physical and emotional intimacy. We’ll explore your intimate desires & fantasies, personal histories, physical concerns, emotional blocks, relational issues, levels of personal energy. We’ll talk about the challenges you face sexually (physical difficulties, emotions like jealousy, guilt, fear, shame, etc). |
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Explore dynamics including practical things like scheduling, privacy, communication and desire. Explore ways to create attunement in your relationship, to see the places where your relationship is stuck and the questions you should ask yourself and your partner so that you can both keep opening your hearts, bodies, minds and energies. |
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We’ll discuss the specific blocks we’re finding together. This allows for a deepening our understanding of what might be in the way of your connected and confident intimate relationship and what you might do to shift your way of thinking about intimacy. |
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In this final session, we’ll take a look at your individual Pleasure Plan and talk about what you can do to move into the future with confidence. We’ll review the plan and see how it feels. We’ll make modifications as needed.
You may want to take your Pleasure Plan to your couples’ counselor and use it in your sessions there. You may want to discuss it at your next medical appointment. You might want to join another program with me to implement the ideas we’ve come up with - or work on it on your own at home together. |
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what others say
“Jane's open, compassionate style and ability to normalize sexuality with her expertise and coaching helped me immensely. I feel more empowered with my sexuality and my relationship is stronger than ever because of Jane's program. Thank you!" -KP “I just wanted to reach out again and say thank you for your work and your amazing brain. I got more out of our hour-long session than I did in 3 different therapists offices. You're incredible and just felt you needed to hear that again. Hope you're staying safe and no need to respond. The compliment is free, just like your gift was to me two years ago” - AS “You have been a godsend, Jane. The universe put the right person in our path at the right time.” - AP |
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