You love each other, but…
Talking about sex is touchy as hell and almost always causes an argument. You want to bring it up… you know you need to bring it up… you’ve tried to bring it up, but the conversation feels almost impossible because every time you do bring it up - there’s a blow-up. It takes a long time to get over these blow ups, so weeks go by… months go by… sometimes years go by… but you’re still not having “The Talk.” It’s a veritable mine-field that you just don’t know how to navigate. |
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Become sensitive to your partner’s triggers around sex. Even if you don’t identify as someone who’s experienced a lot of trauma in your life, day-to-day living causes small traumatic events for most people. Thinking about these things before you reach out to your partner to have The Talk will make it easier for you to communicate without shame (for either of you.) |
Find the courage to have The Talk. You understand that there’s a whole lot more to intimacy issues between couples than just being turned on or not, you’ve let go of things from the past that were difficult, you know what you’re looking for and you’ve let go of unrealistic expectations. You’re ready to set up a time, place and specific intention to talk with your partner about your intimacy concerns. |
How to start it. Where to have it. What to say. This is it. A step-by-step guide to The Talk. This is a customizable template that you can use when talking with your partner about intimacy, affection and connection. Included is a PDF with expert advice on what NOT to say. This whole program is designed to help you express yourself without shaming or coercing your partner. It’s a consent-based, trauma-informed program. |
Hi, I’m Dr. Jane Guyn (she/her/hers)
I’m a sex therapist who created The Talk because I wanted to provide a safe space for you to feel fluid and comfortable in your desires to connect without somehow hurting your partner’s feelings and making them feel inadequate. As a Professional Sex Coach and sexologist (and a woman who’s been married almost 40 years), I know talking about intimacy can be fun once you’re comfortable with it. This program doesn’t just focus on sex and libido. We also look at ways that sexuality and intimacy intersect with power dynamics and attachment, the impact of the demands you both face on a daily basis, and how the expression of intimacy in your relationship impacts your parenting and legacy. This is my easy-to-access online program for people who’re ready to level up their communication as a couple. |
We’ve found it incredibly helpful to work with Jane to break down some of the communication barriers we had around sex. Taking that leap of faith and letting our guards down has helped us be more open with each other about sex and what we both want. Jane has helped instill confidence in us by providing tools and meaningful discussion to help improve our sex life. It’s also helped us in other areas of our relationship.. - CC & SC. |
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