A real voice

​You might have seen my post last week asking for people who’re great at using words in a sexy way. I had lots of interesting conversations with people who know their way around sexy talk in and outside the bedroom.

It was delish.

The people I talked with have real game when it comes to using sexy words and sounds.

​Most of us aren’t like that. 

We like it when another person seduces us or talks to us, but we don’t necessarily know what to say to them a lot of the time.

Which is difficult because one of the most important things we need is a real voice. We need to be able to speak to another person in a way that’s authentic whether it’s via text, during a passionate moment in bed, or while we’re doing the dishes after dinner.

And at the same time be open to that person. To listen to him/her/them and respond. Listen with our whole self.

Our partner could be a great communicator. Or maybe they’re shy and unwilling to open up. Most of us have words hiding somewhere in there.

And it’s our job to listen so deeply that the words find their way out somehow. And to share our thoughts as well.

And our noises. And expressions of pleasure.

A lot of us are too quiet during moments of connection. We don’t give feedback and encouragement to our partner.

We need that stuff to give us the message that things are going well. Or not.

If you have trouble expressing yourself sexually, get yourself to The Masterclass for Womxn. We’ll break down all sorts of barriers for you and your partner. Nice and easy.