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If you’re interested in being with people of more than one gender you might define your sexual orientation as bisexual, pansexual or omnisexual. Did you know that your sexual orientation may include many things? Some people are happily monogamous in a sexual relationship with a partner of the opposite gender.
If that’s you, you might define your sexual orientation as straight. Others want to be with someone who shares their gender. If that’s you, you might define your sexual orientation as gay. If you’re interested in being with people of more than one gender you might define your sexual orientation as bisexual, pansexual or omnisexual. Some of us aren’t interested in any physical sexual relationship at all. If that’s you, you might define your sexual orientation as asexual. Knowing about yourself sexually (whatever that means to you) is the first step in having a personal life you really love. Yesterday I talked with a client about what it means to be demisexual. ME: So, you feel interested in sex when you feel like you know and love - when you feel heart open to a partner. MY CLIENT: Absolutely. It’s really not about the sex to me. It’s about an emotional connection. ME: I totally hear you. So, when your partner “just wants sex” and you don’t feel like you’re connecting personally, you’re not interested. MY CLIENT: Right. In fact, that really turns me off. I want him to want me, not “it”. Mixed orientation relationships (where one person identifies as straight and interested in physical sex, and the other identifies as asexual or gay or some other sexual orientation) can be very challenging for both of you. But when you really know your own sexuality - be it straight and monogamous, or omnisexual and demisexual, you’ll be able to share who you really are with your partner (or a potential partner). You’ll be able to speak your truth and live a life that’s easy and fluid - not a life filled with shame and a pressure to perform something that’s not your thing. I know this can be confusing. Want to talk about it? Get on my calendar using this link: https://www.howtofixmysexlife.com/coffeedate.html Xoxo Jane PS: This stuff can feel complicated. PSS: Do not fear. Below is a great list of many ways we humans are interested (or not interested) in sex. Sexuality, or sexual orientation, has to do with whom a person is, or is not, attracted to either sexually or romantically. A person may identify more with one sexuality than another at different points during their life. Types of sexuality Below are definitions of some types of sexuality. Alloromantic A person who identifies as alloromantic experiences romantic attraction toward others. Allosexual This is an umbrella term. A person who identifies as allosexual typically feels sexual attraction toward other people. They may also want to have sex with a partner. People who identify with this orientation may also identify with another sexuality, such as being gay, lesbian, or bisexual. Androsexual People who consider themselves androsexual feel attraction toward men, males, or perceived masculinity, irrespective of whether or not they were assigned male at birth. Aromantic A person who identifies as aromantic may not feel any romantic attraction toward anyone. They may not want a relationship beyond friendship. Those who identify with this orientation may also identify with another orientation. A person’s romantic attraction can differ from their sexual attraction. For example, a person may not feel romantic attraction toward people but may still be sexually attracted to some individuals. Asexual Asexual is an umbrella term that encompasses a broad spectrum of sexual orientations. According to the LGBTQIA+ Resource Center , asexuality is a spectrum. Some people may experience no sexual or romantic attraction toward anyone, while others may experience varying degrees of sexual or romantic attraction toward people. Those who identify with this orientation do not have to abstain from sex to be asexual. Some orientations that exist within the asexuality spectrum include:
This does not mean that they do not experience romantic attraction toward others as well. Autosexual Those who identify as autosexual experience a sexual attraction toward themselves. Similar to those who are autoromantic, people who are autosexual may also experience sexual attraction toward other people. Bicurious People who identify as bicurious are interested in having a sexual or romantic experience with someone of the same gender. The term indicates that the person experiences some uncertainty as to how they identify romantically or sexually. Biromantic People who identify as biromantic feel romantic, but not necessarily sexual, attraction toward more than one gender. Bisexual A person who identifies as bisexual can be of any gender. Bisexuality means that a person feels attraction toward their own gender and other genders or toward anyone regardless of their gender. The LGBTQIA+ Resource Center notes that some people may use the terms bisexual and pansexual interchangeably to describe their sexual orientation. Demiromantic People who identify as demiromantic usually do not feel romantic attraction toward people with whom they do not have a strong emotional bond. Demisexual A person who identifies as demisexual typically only feels sexual attraction toward a person with whom they have already established a strong emotional bond. Some people who are demisexual may have no interest or only a slight interest in sexual activity. Gay A person who identifies as gay typically only feels sexual attraction toward people of the same gender. Socially, people use this term to refer to men who are romantically and sexually attracted to men. However, those in the community use it as an umbrella term. Gynesexual or gynosexual People who identify as gynesexual feel sexual attraction toward women, females, and perceived femininity, irrespective of whether they were assigned female at birth. Heteroromantic Those who are heteroromantic may experience romantic attraction, but not necessarily sexual attraction, toward those of a different gender. Heterosexuality People who are heterosexual, or “straight,” typically feel sexual and romantic attraction toward people who are of a gender different than their own. Homoromantic Homoromantic refers to people who are romantically attracted to those of a similar gender to their own. They may not feel sexual attraction toward these people, though. Homosexuality Homosexuality is a term describing those who are emotionally and physically attracted to people of the same gender. However, the LGBTQIA+ Resource Center states that this term is outdated and may have negative connotations due to the past. Lesbian Those who identify as lesbian are usually women who feel sexual and romantic attraction toward other women. Some nonbinary people — those who do not identify with the traditional binary sexes of male and female — may also identify as lesbians. This may be because they feel a closer connection to womanhood and are mainly attracted to women. Monosexual Monosexual is an umbrella term encompassing all sexual orientations that feel a romantic or sexual attraction toward only one gender. The sexual orientations that come under this term include heterosexuality, gay, and lesbian. Multisexual Multisexual is a broad term that encompasses all sexual orientations in which people are attracted to more than one gender. Some sexual orientations that come under this term are bisexual and omnisexual. Pansexual and omnisexual These sexual orientations refer to people who feel attraction toward people of all genders and sexes. A typical identifier for people with this orientation is that gender is not a factor in sexual or romantic attraction. While there is overlap between these two terms and bisexuality and polysexuality, some people may prefer to use one term over another. Panromantic This term refers to those who experience romantic attraction, but not sexual attraction, toward people of any gender or sex. Polysexual People who identify as polysexual feel sexual or romantic attraction toward more than one gender. Queer People of all sexualities under the LGBTQIA+ umbrella may also identify as queer. Historically, many people used the word queer as a slur. People belonging to LGBTQIA+ communities may now choose to use this term to reclaim it. It is generally not a good idea for people outside of these communities to use this term. Sexual fluidity People’s sexuality can be fluid. This means that their sexual orientation is not fixed, and they may not define themselves by any particular sexuality. Skoliosexual People who identify as skoliosexual typically only feel attraction toward people who are nonbinary. Spectrasexual Spectrasexual is a term that describes those who are romantically and sexually attracted to multiple sexes, genders, and gender identities but not all of them. This great content was published in Medical News Today. You can find the article using this link: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/types-of-sexuality Written by Veronica Zambon and medically reviewed by Francis Kuehnle, MSN, RN-BC Publication in June 2022.
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