He said, “She's very outdoorsy and outspoken. She's very direct, and I appreciate that style of communication."
“Hmmm,” I said. “How did it go with your wife when you said that?”
“Not so well,” he said.
I wasn’t shocked.
Women are really sensitive to the negative judgments of others. We get it from the culture. “If my husband said that,” I said, “I would have killed him." Funny, not funny.
I explained to him that women are covered with an invisible layer of velcro that’s designed to hold on to negative comments from others while the positive stuff slides right off.
That’s when he said something really powerful. “It’s almost like you’re saying women are running around the world with PTSD, that can’t be right.”
Yes, I said. That’s exactly right. An inner sense of unworthiness is rampant among women.
And because he asked me to make him a list of what he could do to make his wife feel better about herself (and act more confidently in the bedroom) I wrote...
How to create the perfect woman in 7 simple steps
Follow these 7 simple steps every day for one full year and you will have the perfect woman (and be the envy of all your friends).
Be grateful that this woman has chosen to give you her love. It’s a gift to be cherished.
If you’re a woman who struggles with an inner sense of unworthiness, don’t be a stranger. I’m hosting a virtual “Body Shame Release Party” later this month. It’ll be a blast.