Dr. Jane Guyn
Sexless in Seattle..and Nashville and Denver
It was a typical rainy day in Portland, Oregon and I was shopping for drapes with Jim at Pottery Barn. Jim’s my husband. We’ve been married for forever.
We were looking for something light and airy that would give a warm, cozy feeling to our room. We wanted something sexy so I’d feel open making love during the day.
As we looked at the fabrics and hardware, a young sales woman came over. She asked how she could help us in her well trained (but still satisfying) Pottery Barn voice. I told her that we were looking for sex drapes. I think this shocked her a bit but she stayed cool. When we started to check out, she asked us how long we’d been married and how we’d managed to keep passion alive for so long. She said that most of the people she knew had already lost the passion in their lives - and she was only in her 30’s.
Unfortunately, she was right. Most couples these days (even the “happy” ones ) are basically nonsexual. And I’m not just talking about couples who’ve been married over 20 years like us. I’m talking about lots and lots of couples – even newlyweds. There are lots of reasons for the silent epidemic of sexlessness in our country which I’ll explore in another blog post.
So, how about you? How's your sex life? Is your answer to that question something between awkward, non-existent and soul crushing? Is it just “ho hum?”
If so, I totally hear you. So many of the couples I’m honored to work with online or in person, want more in the bedroom but have no idea how to get it. If this is you - schedule a complimentary call now and tell me what’s been happening (or not happening…) <link here>
Jane Guyn, PhD
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