Why dog lovers have the secret to better sex

I like dogs. I really do. And you probably know that I have a dog named Eddie who’s part sheltie, part mini aussie with one blue eye. Very cute (especially when he’s had a proper bath).  

I live in Bend OR which is Ground Zero for dog lovers. Here in Bend, you can take your dog on long hikes on the Deschutes River Trail, or even up on the Pacific Crest Trail, and everybody’s happy about it. 

After a long day, you can take your dog to an uber cool outdoor microbrewery place. The dogs love it. The people love it. Bend is plumb full of people who love dogs. It’s amazing. 
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And these dog lovers are all amazing in bed. 

LOL… just kidding. 

I really have no idea if they’re ALL great lovers, but I do know that they’ve discovered the secret to great sex and intimacy. 

Dog lovers do 5 simple things that we can all learn from if we want to have more intimacy in our relationships and better sex. Here they are (in no particular order)

1. Walk your dog 
2. Pet your dog 
3. Train your dog
4. Feed and water your dog 
5. Groom your dog

All of these things create shared experiences with your dog that make both of you happy and healthy. This is the secret to your intimate relationship with your partner, too. 

Let’s break them down here:

1. Walk your dog. 

Walking your dog means that you make time and have a plan to get outside into the fresh air with your dog maybe every day, maybe several times a week. You’re busy with work and everything else on your plate, but your dog has needs and you take care of those needs. By the time you’ve found your shoes and those little doggie poop bags, you’re usually feeling a lot more in the mood to experience something that gets your blood pumping. Just like in sex. Plus you love the feeling of the air on your skin. Dog lovers take their dogs out for walks.You don’t have to make time for sex every day, but putting it into your list of priorities will make a huge difference. 

 If you want more intimacy and better sex, make special time to connect in your busy schedule. 

2.Pet your dog. 

Like people, dogs are social beings. They want and need affection and physical touch. When you come home from “work” or the store, your dog greets you and shows you all sorts of love. They’re open and welcoming.  And you reciprocate. It’s a crazy dog love fest. Try this with your partner. If you’re the one who’s home when they get there, shower them with love - just like your dog. And if you’re the one who’s arriving, get all up on your partner with the kind of affection and attention that they really crave. I can’t tell you how often a client has told me that they think the dog gets way more touch and affection than they do. Be aware that people like different kinds of affection depending on their temperament, just like dogs do.  

If you want more intimacy and better sex, give and receive affection whenever you can - especially when you’ve been apart. 

3. Train your dog. 

Dog lovers these days use positive reinforcement - no more harsh punishment. And the dogs love it. They love to learn new tricks. They want to please you. So dog lovers teach their dogs how to please them, how to walk with a loose leash, how to sit and maybe even how to roll over. I don’t think you want to teach your partner to roll over (or maybe you do, lol) but communicating with each other about what you want in your intimate relationship is so important. And don’t be harsh. 

 If you want more intimacy and better sex, “train” each other to do what you really want in the bedroom and in your relationship. But don’t be harsh.

[If your dog has been abused or has a very sensitive personality, it will take a very gentle and tender touch to help them trust you. This is true in your intimate relationship with your partner, too.]

 4. Feed and water your dog. 

Dog lovers know that proper food and abundant water is super important for their dogs. In your relationship, this means understanding what your partner really needs in all sorts of ways, maybe it’s actual hunger, maybe it’s physical touch, maybe it’s gifts. And your needs matter too. Share your needs with each other. They may be different but they still matter. Maybe your partner is even hungry for something to eat!

If you want more intimacy and better sex, figure out what your partner is hungry for and feed them. Make sure that you’re getting what you’re hungry for, too. 

5. Groom your dog.

Keeping your dog clean and well groomed means that you’re going to be more interested in petting and touching them. This is so important because dirty dogs don’t get nearly as much attention as the yummy fluffy ones. In your relationship this might mean that you focus on self care and keep yourself well groomed, or it might mean that you help your partner take care of their own grooming. Do this in the most gentle and compassionate way. If you’re having sex with a womxn, never come to bed with rough finger nails or bad breath. Clean up, maybe trim or manage your body hair if you and your partner like it. We’re not all poodles but a little grooming goes a long way. 

If you want more intimacy and better sex, groom yourself and encourage your partner to as well so that you want to get close to each other.

That’s it! It’s so easy to have more intimacy and better sex if we follow the guidance of dog lovers everywhere. 

Make time for each other, greet each other when you’ve been apart and give lots of attention,  communicate with each other openly, feed each other what you REALLY want, and take care of your grooming. 

Keep your eyes out for happy dog lovers out there. They have the secret. 

Xoxo

Jane