Your not so happy holidays

This morning I was delighted to sit across the table from a beautiful friend at a coffee shop here in Bend. We’re both busy with holiday preparation and getting ready to travel but we took a break to catch up together. As we waited for the barista to make our drinks, we talked about life, the latest happening with the kids and our hopes for 2023. At one point, we complained a bit about our wonderful husbands. Sometimes we get impatient with them. Of course we they get impatient with us too. 

Sound familiar? It’s what happens. It’s normal. ​

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When you’re feeling irritable, tired and discouraged in your relationship (especially during the holidays) what can you do? 


Tip #1 Reach out to a friend 

Take a few minutes to connect with a friend when things feel crazy. Life is busy. Take a break from any preparations you’re doing and go for a walk. Get coffee or tea together. Friendship makes things better.

Tip #2 Take it one day at a time

The holidays can be very stressful even when things are going well. It’s always good to take things one day at a time, but this time of year it’s even more important. Focus on a few key priorities today so that you don’t get overwhelmed.

TIp #3 Find a way to connect intimately - even without sex

Most holiday movies feature darling couples in romantic, heartwarming scenes. In real life, relationships don’t usually feel that way. Even though it’s challenging to stay connected intimately with each other, try finding a way to be affectionate - even without real sex.

You can give yourself and each other the gift of what matters most - a loving partner who’s intimate and loving. 

Xoxo

Jane

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