This summer, I was going to Ziggy Marley’s tribute concert. It was my first time at our local amphitheater and I was excited to join a fun group of friends for the evening. Next step: what to wear?
I left my office and walked to a boutique in the neighborhood. I found something cute and went up to buy it.
The checkout girl was new. I told her my office was right around the corner as she took my payment. Her eyes widened.
Her: Are you Dr. Jane Guyn?
Me: Yes, have we met before?
Her: No, we don’t know each other personally, but my therapist told me to call you.
People tell me this all the time. In fact, if I had a Powerball ticket for every time someone said their therapist told them to call me, I think I’d be sending big checks to my loved ones so they could all pay off their mortgages.
I said something like “Here’s my card. I hope you call me. You’re welcome to get in my calendar for a conversation about what’s been happening. It’s my gift to you. No charge.”
She said, “I will. I totally will.”
I said, “Great. I look forward to it.It’ll be an honor.”
But she didn’t. And I get it. Talking about intimacy is very challenging. Some people think it’s worse than anything they can imagine.
Does this sound like you? Have you been listening to my Facebook lives or reading my articles in the Source Weekly and you know that you’re “supposed” to call me? Are you avoiding it like you’re trying to avoid COVID?
I know it’s very difficult to talk about this stuff. And if you’re like the people I talked to yesterday, you’ve probably been thinking about this problem for a long time.
I know it’s hard. But, you’re brave. Let’s talk anyway.
Here’s what to do:
Step #1: Book a 30 minute complimentary conversation with me.
Step #2: Join me on Zoom using the calendar invite I send you.
Step #3: Tell me what’s been bothering you. Get something important out of the conversation even if we never talk again.
Step #4: Ask your questions, including about what I offer. Are you looking for one-on-one sessions, a group program or online classes? Get a link with the details you need to make a decision.
Step #5 Choose your program and your payment plan. Input your billing info. Get an automated email. Schedule your first one-on-one session or login to your program.
That’s all there is to it. Nice + easy.
Some other things you should know:
i’m not a therapist. This means I don’t diagnose or treat mental health problems. I do help clients recognize sexual themes from the past so that they’re able to be present in their intimate lives right now. My clients talk to me about what’s been happening. But, I don’t dig deeply into the family of origin issues that my clients face. I answer questions and share information about sexual intimacy to help them feel comfortable and confident in the bedroom - whatever that means right now. .
Sometimes people ask me if I touch my clients sexually.I don’t touch clients that way at all. I’m a sexologist - someone who helps people understand themselves sexually.
And…here’s a picture of my grandson wearing The Little Red Jacket. He’s such an adorable lil’ pumpkin.